Asian woman hand holding mobile phone and using application on smartphone

Boy, 5, treated for smartphone addiction

Boy, 5, treated for smartphone addiction

Cyber wellness centre gets 8 to 10 calls a week from parents seeking help for kids’ excessive use of smart devices

When a five-year-old boy hurled his mother’s smartphone across the room and smashed the device, it was the last straw for his parents.

It was the third time that Kenny (not his real name) had thrown the phone in a tantrum after being told to stop using it.

Despite his tender age, his family decided to take him to see a counsellor so that he could be weaned off his smartphone addiction.

They are not the only ones in Singapore facing such a problem.

Touch Cyber Wellness, which has been running cyber wellness education and counselling programmes for more than 15 years, said cases of excessive use of mobile devices have more than doubled in three years.

It handled 34 cases in 2015, 49 in 2016, and 76 last year.

On average, the centre’s helplines receive about eight to 10 calls a week from parents seeking help and advice on their children’s excessive use of mobile devices and social media.

Touch Cyber Wellness senior coach Michelle Lee told The New Paper: “As more young people have a phone, and at increasingly younger ages, they become more susceptible to phone addiction because they tend to lack self-regulation and consequential thinking.”

In Kenny’s case, his parents used games on the smartphone to pacify him during mealtimes. But the ploy backfired when he became addicted to them.

Mr Chong Ee Jay, a counsellor and manager at Touch Family Services, said Kenny was the youngest smartphone addict he had treated.

Mr Chong, 38, said: “Increasingly, smartphone addiction is intertwined with behavioural issues.

“This includes anti-social behaviour and ignoring of parents, so that they can have solo device time.”

A recent study by global digital literacy group DQ Institute and Singtel found that Singapore children aged eight to 12 spend more time online for entertainment – 35 hours a week – compared to the global average of 32 hours.

The survey of 38,000 children in the age group across 29 countries also found that 54 per cent of them are exposed to cyber risks, such as cyber bullying, video game addiction, offline meeting and online sexual behaviour.

More worrying, those who own a mobile phone are more susceptible to online vulnerabilities, the study revealed.

They spend 15 more hours a week online than those without a mobile phone, and 70 per cent of them are exposed to cyber risk, compared with 45 per cent for those without a phone.

Despite the increase in such cases, Ms Jenny Liew, a counsellor at the National Addictions Management Service (Nams) in the Institute of Mental Health, said smartphone addiction is not officially recognised as a clinical disorder.

She said: “No one has actually sought help for smartphone addiction at Nams thus far. Right now, it is more of a cultural and social phenomenon than a clinical disorder, and almost everyone is glued to their smartphones these days.”

Fortunately for Kenny, his smartphone dependence had a happy ending.

Touch Family Services’ Mr Chong recommended a period of “digital detox”, where Kenny was not allowed to use smartphones for two months and had to interact with his siblings and go outdoors instead.

The “time-out” resulted in two weeks of escalated tension before the boy’s temper tantrums eased off by the end of the first month, and he started to enjoy family time with his siblings.

The last time Mr Chong heard from the family a few months ago, they were doing well.

“As parents, we need a long-term game plan in mind and adjust our approach when it comes to giving children smartphones,” he said.

 

Source: http://www.tnp.sg/news/singapore/boy-5-treated-smartphone-addiction

Asian woman hand holding mobile phone and using application on smartphone

佛說緣份的秘密

佛說緣份的秘密

有一天,釋迦牟尼佛對著所有弟子在講經說法,忽然他叫起了阿難說:“你拿一個桶子,到前方五里路遠的一個小村莊,向一個在井邊洗衣服的老婦人,要一桶水回來,記得態度要客氣和善一點。”
阿難點點頭,拿著空桶子,往世尊指示的方向去要水。他想說,這麼容易的事,一定輕易就能辦妥世尊所交待的任務。走啊走的,走到了那村莊,真有位白髮蒼蒼的老婦在井邊洗衣服。
阿難很有禮貌的向這位老婦恭敬的作揖,說:“老人家啊老人家,可以跟你要一桶水嗎?”
那老婦一抬起頭望見這年輕人,不由怒從心生,很生氣的說:
“不行,這口井只能給這村子裡的人使用,任何外人,是不被允許的!”
接著就趕阿難走了,任由阿難苦苦哀求也不為所動!阿難無奈,只有帶著空桶回去。他將他所遭遇的種種情形,娓娓的向世尊和在場的弟子道來。世尊點點頭,示意阿難坐下,接著他叫舍利弗去。
舍利弗一樣走啊走的,走到了那村莊;一樣見到那個白髮蒼蒼的老婦還在井邊洗衣服。
舍利弗一樣很有禮貌的向這位老婦人說:“老人家啊老人家,可以跟你要一桶水嗎?”
那老婦一抬起頭望見這年輕人,不由得心花怒放,彷彿見了一個很投緣的親人。她很高興的說:“行!行!來來,我來幫你打水……”
打好一桶水給舍利弗後,又叫他等一下;老婦人匆忙的回家拿一些齋食叫舍利弗帶著路上吃。
舍利弗帶了整桶水回去,將他所遇到的種種情形,也娓娓的向世尊和在場的弟子道來……
世尊點點頭一樣示意舍利弗坐下。阿難和在場弟子就很納悶、疑惑,問世尊是何種因緣?造成阿難和舍利弗這兩人有這麼大的差別。
萬事皆有因果
世尊開示說道:
在遠劫前的一世,這位老婦淪為畜牲道,是隻老鼠;牠死在路邊被烈日艷陽暴晒著……。阿難那時候是個趕貨經商的賈人,見到這隻死老鼠,心中起了嫌惡之心,掩鼻而過……舍利弗那時是個正要赴京趕考的讀書人,見到這隻死老鼠,心中起了憐憫之心,順手捧把泥土將牠掩蓋。
經久遠劫以後,現在他們見了面,產生這樣不同的差別待遇。眾人可以想像……
小小的起心動念,就有如此大的善惡果報,何況是直接加諸痛苦在人身上呢!
萬事皆有因果,緣份真的很奧妙!

Little boy cleaning bathroom floor

两岁开始学习做家务对孩童有益

两岁开始做家务

现代许多家长不要求孩子做家务。家有女佣的,家务全由女佣做;没有女佣的,爸妈放工回家后自己做。其实,让孩子做家务,对孩子本身是有不少好处的。且听本地专科医生解析。

莱佛士儿科医疗中心儿科顾问医生赤特拉表示,做家务能帮助孩子学习自我控制、达到满足感、培养责任感和建立信心。在实际动手做家务的过程中,也让孩子更加融入到家庭生活,加强与家人的沟通,并学习团队合作。

赤特拉医生说,两岁大的孩子,已可开始做家务,学习生活技能。对于从未接触过家务的孩子,家长可以先指派一到两项简单的任务,当他们掌握后,才逐渐增加工作量。

不同年纪的孩子 可做哪些家务?

2到3岁:

  • 收拾玩具和书本。
  • 把脏衣服放入洗衣篮里。
  • 自己穿衣服。
  • 弄脏了,自己清理。
  • 若有宠物,帮忙喂食。

4至6岁:

  • 清理餐桌和摆餐具。
  • 配搭袜子,帮忙折起来。
  • 收拾洗好的衣服。
  • 整理自己的床和房间。

7至10岁:

  • 扫地、吸尘。
  • 清理垃圾。
  • 清理浴室水槽。
  • 帮忙准备食材。
  • 准备简单的食物,如三文治。
  • 分类和折衣服。

11岁以上:

  • 清理厕所。
  • 吸尘和抹地。
  • 遛宠物。
  • 清理冰箱。
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人绝对可貌相

人,绝对可貌相!

一个人的相貌可以反应此人多方面的内容:性格、人品、家教、审美以及生活方式。

▣ 01 性格写在脸上

宽厚豁达的人多半眉清目秀,一脸福相;狭隘善妒之人大多尖嘴猴腮、双眉紧蹙;性情喜静温和的人面相温柔善美;性格粗暴、情绪不稳的人看上去总是一脸凶相。

心术不正的小人经常疑神疑鬼,神色慌张;而单纯善良之人脸上总是挂满关爱的微笑,让人越看越顺眼,越看越喜欢。

▣ 02 人品刻在眼里

人品的好坏刻在眼里,眼睛是心灵的窗户:心胸狭隘之人眼里装的满是他人的缺点;贪财好色之人眼里总是盯着女色和钱袋;喜欢无事生非的人,眼里总是紧盯着别人的小错误而大做文章。

相反,光明磊落之人眼里看到的是公平和正义;宽容大度之人眼里看到的是自己的未来;言出必行之人眼里看到的是诚实守信。

▣ 03 吃饭看家教

中国人大多喜欢在饭桌上对孩子进行教育,一个人的吃相,反映了这个家庭的教养。

吃自助餐经常拿一大堆食物,却又吃不完的人,在生活中想必也喜欢浪费、不懂得节约;在等菜吃饭的时候,习惯对服务员呼来喝去的人,肯定也是极度没教养之人。

▣ 04 衣着见审美

审美高的人总能扬长避短、合乎时宜地打扮自己:肚子有赘肉,就不会穿露脐装;腿粗穿长裙比短裙更好。

户外旅行时会选择轻快便捷的运动装;上班工作的时候,穿的是干净整洁的职业装;在家休息时套的是宽大舒适的家居服。

▣ 05 身材看生活方式

那些年纪轻轻就已经大腹便便的人,要么是在锻炼方面不能坚持,要么就是在饮食方面过于放纵自己的胃,熬夜于他们而言更是家常便饭。

有的人虽然年纪大了,但依然保持着匀称健康的身材,他们并非天生吃不胖,而是懂得管住自己的嘴、迈开自已的腿,几十年如一日地精选饮食、按时休息、坚持运动。